Remember when you said “fatphobia” was child abuse. Actual child abuse is making your kids fat so they die of heart disease.

thisisthinprivilege:

whatfreshhellisthis:

(Warning for discussion of abuse, which gets explicit in the second paragraph)

My dad physically and emotionally abused me, and he justified it to himself because I was a fat kid, a fat teen, and am now a fat adult. Worse, other adults around me knew I was being abused and justified it to themselves because I was fat.

Society teaches adults to abuse their fat children. No, feeding kids healthy and balanced meals isn’t abuse. No, fostering a healthy amount of bodily movement and exercise isn’t abuse. But that’s not actually what ends up happening to fat kids, is it? Fat kids have their meals reduced down to starvation levels. Fat kids are screamed at, called vile names, told they are ugly and worthless. It’s to help them, right? Anything is better than being fat.

Kids have died, literally died, because their parents have accidentally starved them to death out of fear that the child will be fat. You can look this up on your own, because it is horribly, brutally true.

We do not have a culture capable of enabling parents to make healthy decisions and to help their kids to be healthy. So long as we despise and fear fatness, so long as we see it as a moral failure, an intellectual failure, a personal failure, we *cannot* neutrally approach the health of anyone, but *especially* the health of children.

Of course the irony is, if I didn’t have such severe cptsd that I am barely functional, maybe I would eat healthier, exercise more. Maybe that would mean I was thinner, maybe it wouldn’t. But the abuse couldn’t have ever made me healthy. You cannot torture someone into health. You can’t even necessarily torture them into being thin.

TORTURE IS NOT CARE.

STARVING KIDS IS NOT CARE.

MOCKING AND BULLYING KIDS CANNOT BE FOR THEIR OWN GOOD.

ABUSE IS ABUSE, NO MATTER HOW FAT YOUR VICTIM IS….!!!