Benefits of not being around abusive people:

furiousgoldfish:

• Not having to listen to them
• Not having to exhaust yourself making them feel good about themselves
• Not having to listen to lies and twisted re-telling of events
• Not getting shut down, insulted and humiliated when you try to speak
• Not having your emotions invalidated and ridiculed
• Not having everything about you used against you
• Not being treated like an object or a property
• Not being yelled and screamed at when you try to stand up for yourself
• Not having to second guess your every thought and opinion
• Not having everything you know to be true denied to you constantly
• Not having to imagine worst case scenarios constantly
• Not having to bottle up all the fear, pain, and anger
• Not being self-conscious about your appearance
• Not having to worry about being degraded, called out or insulted based on your appearance
• Not being stared at and feeling like you’re being watched and judged no matter what you’re doing
• Not being glared at and addressed with hatred and scorn
• Not being forced to compete for attention
• Not being denied attention
• Not feeling pathetic and horrible about your needs
• Not feeling like everyone hates you and you’re unnecessary
• Liking yourself
• Loving your body
• Gaining confidence in yourself
• Knowing what you can do and how capable you are
• Being aware of your talents and virtues and feeling proud and content
• Being able to point out what’s wrong without getting shut down
• Being able to call anyone out on their shit without getting attacked
• Being able to express your pain, fear, anger, without getting abused
• Being accepted
• Being good enough as you are
• Being important to yourself and other people
• Having your feelings and opinions matter
• Having your point of view matter
• Having your work and care valued and reciprocated
• Talking about whatever you feel like talking about
• Being heard and listened and validated
• Being allowed to complain and rant and cry 
• Feeling comfortable asking for what ever you need
• Feeling entitled to what you need to be alive, healthy, and content
• Having a clear mind and knowing exactly what is the truth and what isn’t
• Feeling safe and knowing that nobody is about to attack you