tips for running away from home, from someone
who did that:
don’t tell your abusers what you’re up to;
they will put their energy into sabotaging you, for example, I was fairly
clear about intending to move out, and my parents took great effort to convince
me that it’s absolutely impossible for me to survive on my own, tried to take
away my money by any means necessary, even getting me to sign a contract with a
bank so i wouldn’t be able to access my money in there (luckily i didn’t put any
of my money there to that scheme failed), and in the end they tried to convince
me that any money i made freelancing will be stolen before i ever see it, and
tried to prove that the money doesn’t even exist. it didn’t stop me but sure
made me a lot more miserable than i should have been
don’t let your abusers know where you are,
they will try to get to you; i ran away after an extreme violent outburst my
parents threw at me, there was death threats, injuries, broken mobile phone i
tried to use to film the violence, door taken away from my room, it was enough
for anyone to get the hell away from a place, and when my mother found out my
first hiding location she came to tell me that i have to think about why all of
that was my fault. again, making me a lot more miserable than i should have
been.
first few days (weeks) you’ll be in state of a
shock, especially if you’ve been unsure if you’ll be able to get away; i
couldn’t determine if i could function at all after escaping, my head was
spinning, i had breakdowns every other day convinced that i’m about to die, it
was due to the heavy brainwashing that made me believe that i was dead if i
were to run away, there was no way to escape the fear and the torture of it, I
hope not everyone is brainwashed this way but I do see a lot of people doubting
if they have what it takes to go thru life without parents, and the answer is
yes you do, you got it all.
your abusers will react in the way that will
hurt you most; i know of some parents who aimed to injure their run away kid by
pretending they could live just fine without them, like the
child was a nuisance to their life and they were better without it, and in that
case it was the most hurtful and cruel thing they could have done, since the
child slaved their life away for the sake of acknowledgment and attention from
parents. In my situation however, my parents kept acting their entire life like
i was a huge burden and worthless waste of space, and it made me feel like if I
were to run away they would let me be and pretend I never existed, and I would
be free. However I was wrong. They contacted my friends, parents of my friends,
entire outer family circle and anyone they knew to be in contact with me to
make me feel guilty for leaving and tell me i was wrong and should come back,
they found the person who sheltered me and convinced even them to tell me to
return (this was the person who saw me after the violent attack, while i was
shaking and out of my mind with fear, they saw me hide under the bed constantly
convinced i was about to be killed, and this person was still convinced by my
parents that i should go. back. to that.), they made their friends add me on
facebook and request information about my whereabouts until i had a panic
attack and deleted facebook, they kept on finding means to contact me and storm
me with guilt and shame even after i cut every means of contact i knew, they
still sometimes barge into the house of my friend demanding to get in contact
with me, demanding that letters, food, even money be given to me that they
leave there (it took me a while to figure out they would never ever give me
money for the sake of my survival, but would absolutely use money to control
and sabotage me) – all you can do is in any case, to be ready for the worst. Be
ready for whatever you fear the most they would do – because they will do that. Make plans of resistance, plans of keeping yourself safe thru it, plans of retreat and safety if what they do makes you suicidal.
when you’re free, the trauma symptoms will go
berserk at first; your entire system is experiencing protection from abuse for
the first time (protection is abusers not knowing where you are or how to get
to you), and this means you’ll finally be free to actually feel all the fear,
panic, pain, anger, exhaustion, torture and everything else your body has been
holding in all this time for the sake of surviving with abusers around. After I
settled in my hiding place, I could barely get up for 8 months, panic attacks
were almost daily, i couldn’t sleep from how strongly i felt i was about to be
killed and punished for escaping, flashbacks and nightmares wouldn’t stop,
chronic exhaustion and chronic pain were so bad I could barely move, it was
draining my life energy just to make food for myself, and i could often not
leave the place and go outside at all, and would get anxiety attacks around any
kind of people. Only tip I have is to not feel guilty for resting. Don’t feel
guilty for taking your time to recover, you need it, what is happening to you
at this moment is recovery from a war, that lasted all of your life. You are
wounded and tortured and you need rehabilitation and as much rest as you can
get. I know it doesn’t feel good to just lie about and not get anything done, I
know the guilt of not being productive, but lying down for almost a year made
me feel shameless about resting and taking my time. It also helped me realize
that causes of my chronic pain and chronic exhaustion were all the things i was
forced to do against my will, basically anything abusers forced me to do,
anything school related, and anything i was doing for well being of others and
not myself. Resting allowed my natural will to do things to awaken, even though
it took long, I now don’t have to force myself to move anymore, i can get up
without thinking about it, doing things i want to do makes me more energetic
rather than exhausted. So, no more doing things against your will, for anyone.
you will slowly find out just how much your
abusers lied to you about the world. and trust me they lied to you a whole
fucking lot. you will find out all the threats they made were empty, all their
opinions and insults sent at you baseless and imaginary, all the doubts they
planted into your mind, will start sounding ridiculous and stupid. A lot of
abusers try to make their children incapable of making their own choices and
fighting their battles and gathering knowledge about the world, so they would
always feel like they can’t do anything on their own, and would turn to their
parents for guidance, however, abusive parents while making choices and
guidances for you, only thought about themselves and whatever is convenient for
them, and not for you, which by default, makes you the person capable of making
better choices, because for the first time, choices would be made for you, by
you. Control over your life will feel good once you realize it’s not hard or
scary, but gives you the power to do what you please, without having to respond
to anyone.
there will always be people who will try to make you doubt your decision and blame you and take your abuser’s side, those people are wrong, and they are your enemies. From this point on, anyone who tries to make you doubt your decision to save your life is an enemy. Nobody should ever try to make you doubt if you could have done anything else but pick yourself up and save yourself from abusive environment. You can absolutely decide that those people are scum who would have you dead for their convenience, and turn your back on them.
I don’t have any financial advice, because i
only ran away after earning enough money to not end up homeless, and I just did
it by freelancing over the internet, which is something my abusers didn’t expect
me to be capable of, so they failed to sabotage me on time, they however did
make sure to throw abuse my way every time i was doing good and achieving
something, but i stubbornly kept working until it got me out.
Conclusion: running away is fucking hard, you
lose your family, in some cases all of your relatives as well, you lose your
heritage more often than not, your use your security and backup in life, your
life just ceases to be what it was and turns into something completely new. You
gain: yourself, your freedom, your life, your sanity, your health, your
personhood, a chance to heal and recover, a chance to experience life as it should have been. Absolutely. Worth It.
Because unlike the past few generations breasts are everywhere. They’re barely considered soft core porn now. Men have become desensitized to the point where instead of fantasizing about women’s breasts they’re fantasizing about her being double penetrated while choking to the point of vomiting on a dildo. Breasts aren’t explicit enough for todays men.
first y’all complain breasts aren’t sexual organs now you’re annoyed men agree with you lmaooo
No, listen, she’s right. The over-sexualization of women’s bodies and the desensitization of young boys and men to all but the most extreme and violent erotic images are not opposite ends of the same spectrum they’re related problems. The omnipresence of boobs and half-naked women in marketing, advertising, movies, etc doesn’t mean they’ve been de-sexualized. They are still sexualized, but we’ve grown used to it. It’s just a baseline level of objectification and lust. For men to actually get turned on now, to get a hard-on they have to turn to increasingly more extreme forms of porn because of its addictive and desensitizing nature, both things which have been demonstrated in several psychological studies btw. Millennial men haven’t desexualized breasts. But the sight of a topless woman alone isn’t enough to get a dude jerking off now. An image that would have had you cumming in your pants at age 12 is still considered sexual, just not sexual enough. I believe the point @rootfauna is making correct me if i’m wrong is that breasts are still considered sexual organs, enough to be obscene and warrant objectification, harassment and assault, but now they’re not sexual ENOUGH by themselves, to arouse a real desire to fuck there needs to be a violent power fantasy to go with them
(Warning for discussion of abuse, which gets explicit in the second paragraph)
My dad physically and emotionally abused me, and he justified it to himself because I was a fat kid, a fat teen, and am now a fat adult. Worse, other adults around me knew I was being abused and justified it to themselves because I was fat.
Society teaches adults to abuse their fat children. No, feeding kids healthy and balanced meals isn’t abuse. No, fostering a healthy amount of bodily movement and exercise isn’t abuse. But that’s not actually what ends up happening to fat kids, is it? Fat kids have their meals reduced down to starvation levels. Fat kids are screamed at, called vile names, told they are ugly and worthless. It’s to help them, right? Anything is better than being fat.
Kids have died, literally died, because their parents have accidentally starved them to death out of fear that the child will be fat. You can look this up on your own, because it is horribly, brutally true.
We do not have a culture capable of enabling parents to make healthy decisions and to help their kids to be healthy. So long as we despise and fear fatness, so long as we see it as a moral failure, an intellectual failure, a personal failure, we *cannot* neutrally approach the health of anyone, but *especially* the health of children.
Of course the irony is, if I didn’t have such severe cptsd that I am barely functional, maybe I would eat healthier, exercise more. Maybe that would mean I was thinner, maybe it wouldn’t. But the abuse couldn’t have ever made me healthy. You cannot torture someone into health. You can’t even necessarily torture them into being thin.
TORTURE IS NOT CARE.
STARVING KIDS IS NOT CARE.
MOCKING AND BULLYING KIDS CANNOT BE FOR THEIR OWN GOOD.
ABUSE IS ABUSE, NO MATTER HOW FAT YOUR VICTIM IS….!!!
ya’ll this cool new site lets you know if a certain movie or TV show has any affiliation with anyone who was accused of sexual assault. this is important for those of us who are passionate about not supporting work that associates itself with sexual abusers, for the sake of the victims.
Jazzy Rowe could have died, because of her roommates racism. The school tried to intimidate her into silence, but she speaking out and the multi cultural organizations at the school are meeting tomorrow (Nov. 1st) to support her.
The Woman who openly admitted to poisoning her roommate is Brianna “Breezy” Borchu. She was the roommate of Jazzy Rowe at The University of Hartford.
According to this website article, Brianna Borchu has recently been arrested.
Brianna Brochu was literally poisoning this young woman because of her race. One could even argue that this was an attempted murder.. because it definitely was a HATE CRIME.
She only received 2 charges. 1) 2nd degree Breach of Peace 2) 3rd degree Criminal Mischief
I’m convinced that Connecticut is a vortex of evil and breeds self centered hateful racist assholes
it literally takes 30 seconds to go to fucking http://report.cybertip.org/submit and report ANY AND ALL child p*rnogr/aphy that you see online and you don’t have to drag anyone else into it.
you don’t have to expose anyone else to child pornography, you don’t have to signal boost offending urls to report-a-predator and lapis-hates-pedos, you don’t have to link people to blogs and websites containing the offending and illicit material, or whatever the hell it is you’re doing. it’s legal, it’s taken seriously, and they don’t fuck around with reports.
i hate that side of tumblr that sits there and exposes minors to predators under the guise of ‘taking them down and being safe’ as if they can’t get fucking hurt in the process.
if i’m not making myself clear enough and you still want to seem cool for your half-assed vigilantism by making a tumblr warning post as opposed to reporting it to the fucking FBI:
you can get in TONS of trouble for spreading it around. yes, you are fucking spreading it around if you sit there and give out the url to it.
if you have a blog that’s about discourse or whatever and you fucking link that stuff, you are giving predators easy one-click access to it, spreading images of children having their lives ruined and exposing minors to that. it does not matter if you are a minor yourself or what your intentions are.
And unfortunately this only applies to imagery of real people. The law doesn’t cover things like illustrations (you’ll just have to murder the OP for that)
incorrect. 18 U.S. Code § 2256 which is the law covering the regulations of child pornography explicitly covers ‘[…] any visual depiction, including any photograph, film, video, picture, or computer or computer-generated image or picture, whether made or produced by electronic, mechanical, or other means, of sexually explicit conduct […]’
the law does in fact, cover things like illustrations. there have been court cases on it.
shotacon/lolicon cp art may not be a priority but it will be addressed and investigated, but real government agencies will spend more time cracking down on images of literal human children being abused.
it would behoove you to not spread unsourced misinformation regarding the literal legal code of child pornographic content on my post– i know what i’m talking about.
just a reminder that hugh hefner leaked marilyn monroe’s nudes, which she then had to apologize to society for, and only she was shamed, and it could have ruined her entire career, and then after she died, he paid thousands so his grave could be beside hers, so he could further claim ownership and victimize her even after death
he also called the drugs he made his bunnies take “thigh spreaders” and would pass these drugged women around to all types of men at his parties, including bill cosby. hugh was even question after being directly accused of helping bill r*pe one of his victims
it was a fire-able offence to gain more than 5lbs of their hiring weight, which hugh used to help pit the girls against each other for constant in-fighting until it was time for the night drug induced orgy
just a few lil facts, but you know… “what an icon!”
These immigrants victims have one thing in common– they’re immigrants of color. You don’t see ICE doing any of this racist bullshit towards white immigrants. Keep in mind all of these people have clean records. ICE agents see black/brown skin and automatically assume they’re a threat. It’s sad how some immigrants aren’t allowed to live their normal lives because they fear high authority scumbags like this. Anyone who defends this shit has no sense of humanity. None.
That… I…
Fucking…
There.is no saving America
Boost this shit. Boost it right now. Because this is not okay under any circumstances.
It really does get worst tho. I’ve made posts about this in the past but people never really wonder where these immigrants go once ICE “detains” them. Well, they go to these horrific detention centers, some even worse than prisons depending on the area. Depending on the detention center, detained immigrants can be deprived of food, clean water,sanitary products, and medical attention. There have also bee number cases of physical and sexual abuse from the officers. There have actually been more than 33,000 complaintsregarding sexual abuse in these detention centers and only 570 have been investigated.
So it gets a lot worse after they get arrested, and keep in mind a lot of these people have clean record. According to ICE, trying to start a better life in America is a crime. “Land of the free” my ass.
Death By Catchphrase 