going by Jojen and Meera’s story – Death By Catchphrase

Lyanna Stark: *faces down three teenage boys who could probably have kicked her ass and who are beating/shouting ethnic slurs at a small, vulnerable member of an oppressed Northern minority group*
Lyanna Stark: *explicitly refers to this man just the same as any other Northerner and takes him to her family to recover*
Lyanna Stark: *goes up against a bunch of knights who could DEFINITELY have kicked her ass to defend the honor of this small member of an oppressed minority group*
Howland Reed: *is literally loyal to Lyanna until her death and saves her brother’s life in the process of helping her*
The narrative: Uplifting the small and helpless = chivalry = good.
Fandom: Lyanna was only doing it for herself. She wanted glory. She was selfish and spoiled for being the Knight of the Laughing Tree.
Me: …whut.